Most of us are caught in the trivial parts of life and miss seeing the whole. Without leaving our room we want to see the vastness of sky. We live a part of the whole and that part is our pattern, our position and our ego. Thus, we limit our brain to limited paradigms. To see the whole is part of managing our life effectively. To take that leap, one has to have a child-like perspective and not a childish perceptive.
Life is a great mystery; it is vast and limitless. It cannot be limited by shallow thinking. We have not learnt to observe life and hence we are lost in limitations. To be childish is to be ignorant like a child and to be child-like is to be innocent like a child.
One has to learn how to perceive, how to look, how to see. A child sees innocently. To be innocent is to be open. When we look at a flower, we don’t actually see the flower. The perceiver pollutes the perception. With strong likes and dislikes one looks at a flower. When that happens, the emphasis is on one’s likes and dislikes and not actually on the flower. As you grow old, your mind encounters rigid frames of like and dislike, opinions, dogmas, fears, conflicts, greed, etc. Hence your “seeing” is influenced by your background. So your experience of the external world is a product of your mind.
We learn through books, school and college. We collect lot of concepts, words and we get imprisoned by what we know. When we “see and know” something in the outer world there is a struggle. The struggle is to see and know in the light of what you know from your past. The present should fit into your past. So what you know from your past is more important than what you see in the present. You are bound by what you know. Thus our perception is not free. What we know and learn is dictated by the background of our knowledge, our past. A child-like perception is freeing oneself from that background and be free inwardly.
Apply this in the field of relationships, at office or at home. You have an image of your spouse or boss. This image is a product of your conclusions, opinions and with that mental image you relate to your spouse and work. So your struggle is to see that the other fits into your image of your partner or boss. This is a complicated way of living. A child-like perception has no image and its innocence comes in touch with the object. It does not hanker for validation; hence there is no struggle for such validation. By this one can relate better without bitterness.
A childlike perception is pure sensitivity and not sentimental. To be sensitive is experiencing “what is” and sentimental is reacting to “what is” from one’s past. Most of us are sentimental. Let us enter into the state of child-like perception and experience the delight of the now. Then you will transform the ruins of your heart with the “child-like” perception of life. Drain the cup of sentimentality and fill it with sensitivity. Thus walk on the path of being sensitive to “what is”. Then you will relate better in your office and home. You will build a better rapport with people. You will nourish people by your warmth of being sensitive.
~ by Swami Sukhabodhananda
