In economics, if you give something, you will have less. If you have ten rupees and you give five to somebody you cannot still have ten rupees, and certainly you cannot have fifteen rupees; you will have only five rupees left. This is economics of the outside world.
The inner world is totally different. You give love and you have still the same love or maybe even more, because by giving, your love starts flowing. It may have been dormant, stagnant; by sharing it starts flowing. It is like drawing water from a well: the moment you draw water, from hidden springs more water starts filling the space. If you don’t draw water from the well the water will become dirty; it may become poisonous. And unused, the spring will become blocked. If you draw water every day, more and more water will flow in the well… the more you draw the more you get.
However, people live in external economics even in their inner life. The wife becomes angry if she finds her husband being friendly with another woman. The husband becomes aggressive, jealous, if he finds his wife having a good time with somebody else, just enjoying, and laughing. This is sheer stupidity. He is still thinking in terms of money — that if his wife has laughed with somebody else she will be not able to laugh with him any more; so much laughter is lost! Now he is a loser, and of course that creates anger.
In fact, if the wife does not laugh with many people, does not enjoy friendship, is not loving to many people, her love sources will die; she will not be able to love her husband either. She will forget how to love, her spring will go dry.
That’s why you see couples looking so sad and bored with each other; it is bound to happen. They are going against natural inner law: you have more the more you give. Giving does not destroy anything in you; it is creative. The person who loves many people will be able to love his partner more totally.
It is as if your beloved asks you that, “You can breathe only when I am there and when I am not there stop breathing, because so much breath will be lost, so much life will be lost. And when you come home and you have been breathing in every place, everywhere, you will be almost dead! So when I am not with you, stop breathing!” And the husband insists also that, “When I am not at home you stop breathing, so that when we are together great breathing happens!” But both will die!
That’s how we have killed love in the world; we have killed everything valuable, because our logic is stupid. By giving more everywhere, when couples come together, they will be more alive and more loving with each other. They will be at their peak; they will be full of life-juices to share. But this has not happened yet.
Jealousy kills love, possessiveness kills love. Be nonjealous if you want great love to happen; if you want your life to grow multidimensionally it needs freedom. You need freedom and the person you love needs freedom. In freedom only there is expansion, growth.
~ Osho
