“I still hear you humming, Mama. The color of your song calls me home. The color of your words saying “Let her be. She got a right to be different. She gonna stumble on herself one of these days. Just let the child be.” And I be, Mama.”
The closest bond in the family is the one that is shared by a mother and her daughter. Theirs is a bittersweet relationship, which goes through numerous ups and downs in life and in the end, still turns out to be the most intimate of all the other relations. In her childhood, a daughter copies her mom and wants to be just like her. At the age of five, her mother is like her goddess. She smears her face with her mom’s lipstick and models her earrings and high heels, wanting to be just like mommy. She applies her nail polish, mimics her creams-smothering motion and tries to do every thing that she sees her mother doing.
As she enters teenage, a daughter suddenly becomes the most ignorant and out-of-touch creature on the planet, for her mother. In this phase of her life, a daughter feels that her own mother does not understand her feelings. She prefers her friends over her mother and spends as much time away from home as possible. Then, somewhere between her twenties, a daughter realizes that the friend she was searching for throughout the teenage years was so near to her all the time and she is none other than her own mom! The relationship between a daughter and her mother is so complex, yet so simple.
When it comes to a woman and her daughter, fights are so common, be it because of the wide age gap between the two or due to the mom being over protective of her daughter or owing to the fact that the mom still treats her grown-up daughter like a kid. However, whenever there is a problem, the mother-daughter duo will be seen standing alongside and facing the world together. A daughter learns to be a woman from her mother. However, even after she becomes a mother of her own kids, she is pampered by her own mother. This is what makes their relationship all the more special.
One thing that should never crop up between a mother and her daughter is a communication gap. A daughter should always try to talk to her mother openly, be it about her studies, friends or even boyfriend. She should try to make her mother understand her viewpoint and at the same point, try to appreciate the perspective of her mother. On the other hand, a mother needs to change according to the time, minimizing the generation gap between the two. She needs to give her freedom, trusting her not to misuse it. Soon enough, the small little problems will get resolved and the two of them would be able to share a really close bond.